#LeadershipTuesdays: The Trouble With Needing People To Like You

"Let’s be clear. There’s nothing wrong with being liked. But the desire to be liked is what can get us into trouble. The bitter truth is that no matter how hard you try, there will always be people out there who don’t like you. Learning to be okay with that is hard work, but you’ll like yourself so much more for it."

--Reshma Saujani, Founder and CEO of Girls Who Code and Author, "Women Who Don’t Wait in Line"

Every other Tuesday, WOMEN AT LIBERTY provides Leadership Tuesdays, a platform for a variety of voices and resources to develop, encourage and strengthen women leaders. We all want to be liked, but when you as a mature adult "need" to be liked, you become a slave to other peoples opinions and expectations.

The quote above is from a Forbes Mentoring Moment article by Reshma Saujani entitled, "Why Women Need To Stop Worrying About Being Liked". The quotes beautifully captures the dangers of being beholden to other people's opinions of you. As leaders women must be confident in themselves and who they are. We should all try to be nice and kind to our co-workers and employees. But, there is nothing wrong with being confident and firm. That's does not give anyone an excuse to be rude. You can be direct, pleasant, and firm. It's a skill that you can learn and develop. Read the article and you will definitely gain insight from Reshma Saujani's experiences.

Last week's #LeadershipTuesdays blog was based on a quote from U.S. Supreme Court Associate Justice Sonia Sotomayor about believing in yourself and your abilities. To read that quote and blog, click here. For more information on Leadership Tuesdays and WOMEN AT LIBERTY, click here.